Hope and Concern in a Time of Love: A letter from Mindful Heart Hamilton

Contributing to the community art offering at the recent anti-Islamophobia march at City Hall

Contributing to the community art offering at the recent anti-Islamophobia march at City Hall

Dear Friends,

We live in a time of love. We can’t help it.

Often, we can’t see it through all the concern, fear and hate surrounding us, and in our greater world.

We must remember: Every ounce of fear is matched with love of something it is trying to protect. When we see something we love slipping from us, when we don’t fully understand our deservedness of such things, when society has told us over and over again that we don’t deserve anything, and it can and will take from us what we need to survive – fear arises.

This is perfectly natural, and does not have to be a battle. When a child approaches us in fear, do we push them away? Do we tell them they should not be afraid and they are wrong for feeling that way? Or do we comfort them, listen to their concerns, and respond with a loving perspective?

These are the questions we can ask ourselves when fear arises; our answers are how we will treat the scared child in us.

Breathing in, I see myself as a frightened child, only five years old. Breathing out, I listen carefully with a loving heart to what my child-self fears.

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When we don’t do this, our inner child stays fearful. They remain misunderstood. Their fear is joined with pain of loneliness, and rejection that builds with every passing moment we do not give them the care they need. This is happening inside of us, sometimes where we can’t see it. That is when our actions become split – our choices are partially in our adult control, where we may understand them, and partially in the reactions of our pained inner child, where we may not.

It causes a lot of unnecessary confusion to ignore the pain and fear within us.

Breathing in, I embrace my fear and pain as a parent embraces a child. Breathing out, I accept myself and all my negative emotions. I am worthy of the love I give myself.

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When we see this fear in others, it is easy to focus on how their fear, and their actions, affect us. Us vs. Them. This is our perception, and they may have a similar perception of us. We can find compassion in this shared behaviour, if we try.

This is not to say that we must ignore harmful actions, thoughts, and beliefs. They all have effects and consequences, which we can observe within ourselves, whether we are creating them or receiving them. If there is hurt, it must be cared for. Hurt in one is hurt in everyone.

It is only when we receive the care we need that we have freedom to extend that love and care beyond ourselves, because we have enough to share. When we feel we don’t have enough, we are frightened, and we push against anything that seems to take more from us. If we can recognize that this is happening in others, and feel compassion from our own difficult experiences with this, then our actions, thoughts, and beliefs are very different. Different enough that they may break this cycle of hurt.

Breathing in, I inhale the pain of those around me, seeing myself in them. Breathing out, I release all of our pain, creating space for love to come in.

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When we practice mindfulness, we are discovering the present moment in our bodies, minds, and environments. When we feel fear, is there a present threat we need to address? If so, we can address it more appropriately by recognizing it. What are we loving so much that we are afraid to lose it? Or: are we sitting in a peaceful room, with other peaceful beings, safe and warm and brought here by shared good intentions? We may find we have a lot to be thankful for in this moment.

With mindful practice we seek to realize the moment as it is, and not be caught up in yesterday and tomorrow. We use the body to do this, because the body cannot be in two places at once. We use the breath to feel the body, because the breath is ever-changing, just like the present moment – and this concept of change is particularly challenging for a mind that seeks stability, and fear that seeks control.

Breathing in, I recognize that trying to control things restricts me from new experiences and growth. I often try to control what I am afraid of. Breathing out, I remember that I am strong enough to feel new things, and to learn, and I release control that will no longer serve me.

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We also practice mindfulness to rest. There is much, much work to be done to create a more loving and understanding world, and that is work we must do in addition to simply surviving. For some this work of survival is matching the limits of what we have to give, and uncertainty is the only certainty we know. Taking time to rest, to feel support, to be quiet, and to just breathe is a great gift to offer ourselves.

At Mindful Heart Hamilton we welcome and accept all beings, regardless of the beautiful differences they inhabit: race, gender, religion, age, status, ability, lifestyle. We hold in high priority the removal of barriers to the supportive practices of breathing peacefully, listening deeply, speaking lovingly, and resting in safety in the company of others.

Our weekly practice is drop-in, and by donation, with no expectation to give anything but your presence.

We open our arms to those who are suffering. We open our hearts, and listen with them. We share ourselves as freely as we are able, and we ask for help when we feel we are not strong enough.

Dear Friends, let us gather today and every Sunday from 3-5pm at Inland Island Community Wellness Centre to be together. That is all.

With love and support for Hamiltonians old and new, loving and suffering,

MHH

Community Craniosacral Therapy is here!

Community Craniosacral Therapy is here!

Receive free, half-hour sessions from a student of Biodynamic Craniosacral Therapy on the first Tuesday of every month at Inland Island, starting September 6th. Book your appointment today by visiting www.georgiawebber.com/book-an-appointment.

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Our resident Craniosacral Therapist, Georgia Webber, is delighted to offer one day per month of free Biodynamic Craniosacral Therapy Sessions as part of her ongoing training requirements, and an offering to the community. Not sure what the difference is between regular Craniosacral Therapy and Biodynamic Craniosacral Therapy? Read on to find out! And don’t be shy to email Georgia with any questions.

What is Craniosacral Therapy?

Craniosacral Therapy (CST) is a gentle form of touch therapy that prioritizes supporting and enhancing resources in the body, at the body’s own pace. CST works with the rhythm of the cerebrospinal fluid (CSF) and the resulting subtle motions of the cranial bones, fascia, soft tissues in the body. The central nervous system (that the CSF flows through) endures all of the body stresses. When this system is stressed, tensions build and create restrictions that affect every part of the body. Through increased sensitivity in the hands, the practitioner locates restriction, tension, and stillness in the rhythm, and then provides light pressure or movement - only as much as the body invites, without resistance - to restore the full range and ease of motion to the restricted areas.

What is Biodynamic Craniosacral Therapy?

Biodynamic Craniosacral Therapy (BCST) is a branch of CST that uses even more enhanced perceptual skills in the practitioner to feel the fluid movements in the body as a whole, at the cellular level, in deep relationship to what is called the Breath of Life. The Breath of Life is essentially the life force in the body, the energetic map that underlies one‘s basic health and symptomology. This understanding of the body comes from embryology, studying the developmental drives and physical stages that each of us goes through from the moment of conception. 

BCST is trauma-informed, and thus incredibly powerful in bodies where trauma has been "frozen" in place, often preventing more prescriptive therapies from fulfilling their potential to heal. Performed on a massage table, the client is fully clothed and the touch is generally light and still.  The treatment is focused on supporting the health of the whole being, using the relationship of the practitioner's presence and embodiment to create a safe environment for the client's healing process to unfold.

What are these Community Days about?

To learn the enhanced perceptual skills that BCST requires, Georgia needs to fulfill a certain number of practice hours experimenting with feeling perceptions of fluid in the body, the bones and their qualities of movement, orientation to health, certain holds, etc. - and that requires willing participants! Though it is not the aim of the practice session to address your specific issues, healing processes may emerge and express themselves, and you may wish to come back for a regular CST treatment on another day. The work is very gentle, however, and it is more likely that you will experience relaxation and calm while learning about this method of communicating with the body.


If you’re interested in supporting both your health and Georgia’s learning process at the same time, go to www.georgiawebber.com/book-an-appointment and book your free BCST session today!

What's it like to get community acupuncture?

Lots of people who want to know what we do at Inland Island Community Wellness Centre are most curious about community acupuncture, in part because it's not something they're familiar with. I wanted to share with you my first experience of receiving community acupuncture as a patient, years before I became a practitioner and opened Inland Island. Hopefully it will give you a good picture of what to expect and how good it can feel! 

One of the practitioners at Six Degrees working their magic

One of the practitioners at Six Degrees working their magic

Back in 2012 I was dealing with a heck of a lot of stress. I was in school 40+ hours/week, working a part-time job, living with my partner and trying to maintain a relationship with him, and commuting for at least 3 hours of my day every day. Things weren't bad - almost everything that was stressing me out I had taken on by choice in one way or another - but I was having trouble coping with all I had committed to. And then I lost a really good friend in an accident and any semblance of balance I had been maintaining flew out the window. I started to feel anxious, tight chested, have poor digestion, insomnia, incredible PMS, etc. You get the picture. 

A friend  was offering a PWYC gentle yoga class at Six Degrees in Toronto on an evening I actually had free so I went to check it out. The class was wonderful, but the community acupuncture space next to the studio kind of bowled me over. Soft and peaceful music was playing as five resting people lay back in recliners, staring at the art on the walls or napping. It looked blissful. I wanted to badly to sit in one of those chairs too. What a difference from the impersonal and clinical rooms I was used to receiving acupuncture in.

I went back a week later for an appointment with one of the acupuncturists (known as "acupunks" in community acupuncture parlance). I checked in at the front desk, paid anonymously in advance, took some bed sheets from the shelf at the entrance to the acupuncture room, and chose a recliner that was calling my name. The acupuncturist came over with the intake form I had filled out and crouched by my chair. "Hey," she said, "how ya doing?" I, of course, burst into the quietest tears I could muster and unloaded all that I had been carrying around. She listened, she nodded, she agreed that it was a lot, and then asked to look at my tongue and take my pulse.  A few minutes later, the needles were in and I lay back and finally, I relaxed.

There were other people having treatments too, but I didn't pay attention to them. I didn't feel called to at all, I felt utterly and completely in my own body. I think that's one of acupuncture's gifts; it can be a tool for practicing mindfulness, something that often happens during a treatment to the receiver even without the intention to do so. For some reason, I feel like that part of the modality works even better in a community setting vs. being in a private room. In a space filled with others who are totally relaxed, it somehow makes it easier to get there yourself. Those of us who play the role of acupunk will tell you there is 100% a certain kind of energy that you can feel in the room when multiple people are getting poked (by acupuncture needles, obviously) at the same time. It's special. 

I have been going to community acupuncture for years since, and I am just so so excited to be able to offer community acupuncture to the lovely people of Hamilton. You gotta try it!